If you find yourself in love with someone who
does not love you, be gentle with yourself. There
is nothing wrong with you. Love just didn't
choose to rest in the other person's heart.

If you find someone else in love with you and you
don't love him/her, feel honored that love came
and called at your door, but gently refuse the
gift you cannot return. Do not take advantage, do
not cause pain.

How you deal with love is how you deal with you,
and all our hearts feel the same pains and joys,
even if our lives and ways are different.

If you fall in love with another, and he/she
falls in love with you, and then love chooses to
leave, do not try to reclaim it or to assess
blame, let it go. There is a reason and there is
a meaning. You will know in time.

Remember that you don't choose love. Love chooses
you. All you can really do is accept it for all
its mystery when it comes into your life. Feel
the way it fills you to overflowing, then reach
out and give it away.

Give it back to the person who brought it alive
in you. Give it to others who deem it poor in
spirit. Give it to the world around you in
anyway you can. There is where many lovers go
wrong. Having been so long without love, they
understand love only as a need. They see their
hearts as empty places that will be filled by
love, and they begin to look at love as something
that flows to them rather than from them.

The first blush of new love is filled to
overflowing, but as their love cools, they revert
to seeing their love as need. They cease to be
someone who generates love and instead become
someone who seeks love.

They forget that the secret of love is that it is
a gift, and that it can be made to grow only by
giving it away. Remember this, and keep it to
your heart. Love has its own time, its own
seasons, and its own reason for coming and going.
You cannot bribe it or coerce it, or reason it
into staying. You can only embrace it when it
arrives and give it away when it comes to you.
But if it chooses to leave from your heart or
from the heart of your lover, there is nothing
you can do and there is nothing you should do.

Love always has been and always will be a
mystery. Be glad that it came to live for a
moment in your life.

"If you want to be happy, be."---- Leo Tolstoy